When I first signed up for the chance to review this book, I was explaining it to my husband. I told him the book was about ‘helicopter moms’ and I told him I thought I would be perfect for the tour.
Me: “Because, well you know, I’m multi-tasking with staying home with the girls and managing my two websites.”
My husband: “What do you think the term ‘helicopter mom’ means?”
Me: “You know, my arms are everywhere. I’m busy doing a lot of things.”
He then explained to me that the term helicopter mom meant ‘to hover’ over your kids.
My husband: “Don’t worry, you are still a GREAT fit for this book.”
And there it was. My husband jokingly confirmed what I knew deep down but didn’t want to admit. I hover, a little too much.
I had never thought that by worrying and protecting my girls as much as I do, that they might be missing out on a chance to develop.
In the new book, Drop the WorryBall: How to Parent in the Age of Entitlement, by Dr. Alex Russell with Tim Falconer, I came to the shocking realization that if I try to protect them too much from every little thing in the world, that I am in fact taking their ability to worry for themselves away from them.
I need to admit, that taking some of the advice in this book was, and still is hard. I always tell my daughter to be careful when I see her going up and down stairs. I think it is more about me than her. I know I would never forgive myself if I didn’t say something and there was a horrible accident. All I keep hearing in my head is that it just takes a second for something to go wrong and when that second happens, you can never undo it. Just thinking about it makes my eyes well up with tears. Thanks to this book though, I have cut back a lot of my vocal warnings and I’ve learned to sit a little farther back. I still have mini internal ‘moments’, but I am careful now in regards to the message that I am sending externally.
This book is a good tool for parents who worry about their kids (which is all of us, right?). It provides real life situations, how they were handled and the outcomes.
There is a great graph in this book about how much (percentage) of a childs life is the child’s responsibility and how much is the parent’s. My oldest daughter is four years old, and I was expecting to see a big fat zero beside the child’s responsibility, but at this stage it is actually 20%. It is more of an awakening to the fact that my girls are growing up and I can help them, or I can hold them back, and I don’t want to hold them back.
My girls are four years old and one year old so although many of the stories did not pertain to them (because they are ‘older’ issues), it still gave me a great base to start with now that they are young.
This book won’t give you step by step instructions on how to make your kids think for themselves, but it will give you an understanding of how to begin to let go and hand that WorryBall over to your kids so they can learn how to properly deal with it themselves.
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